Haken,
Good post. Now, acrylic does it's molecular change and setting through evaporation yes, but I don't think this is entirely so with darmar and alkyd. I'm nearly sure oxidation has a part in that drying as well as evaporation with both resins (still I'm not 100% certain). Certainly it is the case with linseed. Now I have been a professional pictorial Artist on Billboards in which we used commercially prepared Alkyd gloss paints. These resins set up so quickly that I have had incredibly good results with adhesion using acrylic paints over Alkyd dried for a few days (with the alkyd gloss scuffed first, and an automotive type clear coat sealer applied afterwards though). The Billboards were in the direct sun, weather, heat and cold. Conditions no fine art painting would be subject to (excluding murals), so they were a good test of adhesion longevity, when installed for a few years. Still the tough eurethane clear sealer had much to do with the longevity, the acrylics adherance was not so good over time without it.
However, commercial alkyd paints are very different from adding alkyd resin to linseed based oil paint, and different even from artists alkyd paint, which has a great deal of additional linseed in it compared to commercial gallons of alkyd based paints I was using ( they contained none unless added). Which to me, means artist alkyd would need to oxidize for a good deal of time to be considered dry. So as you say in artist paint, no acrylic over oil.
The addition of mat medium to acrylic is an interesting idea, it should add tooth for the oil to bite into. Are you certain Gesso does not have any additional chemical properties to add absorbancy over regular acrylic colors, besides mat medium?
I would guess the formulation of a good primer goes beyond just making the surface mat, but perhaps not. A good primer allows a certain absorbancy for the following paint layer, for a better bond, and working feel. I'm going to ask the tech person at an artist acrylic paint company, I have a contact for. I'll post when I get an answer from him.